Free · 3-minute life audit
Does the life you're living still feel like yours?
15 questions about where you're going, who you're becoming, what you've actually got in the tank, what makes you feel alive, and how much of your life you're really choosing.
It won't tell you who you are or what to do with your life. It will help you see where something may no longer fit, so you know where to look first.
no five-year plan required.
Designs expire
A life can work beautifully for one season and stop working in another.
That doesn't mean you chose badly.
Maybe the career made sense.
Maybe the relationship made sense.
Maybe the place you lived made sense.
Maybe the pace you kept worked for years.
And then something changed.
Your body.
Your children.
Your priorities.
Your circumstances.
You.
Sometimes nothing went wrong.
You just have new information.
What it looks at
Five questions you've probably already asked yourself. Possibly at 3am.
Direction
Where am I going?
Am I moving towards something I actually want now, or following a destination that made sense to an earlier version of me?
Identity
Who am I, and who am I becoming?
Who am I without all the roles I play? What's been buried under work, motherhood, relationships or other people's expectations? And who do I want to become from here?
midlife can be both becoming and remembering.Bandwidth
What have I actually got in the tank?
Does the life I'm living make sense for the time, energy, attention, health, money and support I actually have?
Spark
What makes me feel alive?
Is there enough curiosity, pleasure, creativity, excitement or plain old enjoyment in my life?
Choice
What am I actually choosing?
Which parts of my life feel like choices, and where am I mostly going along with things, reacting, waiting or doing what's expected?
You'll see all five on your Flow Map, plus the one I'd look at first.
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Who is this for?
Women in midlife who have a feeling that the life they're living no longer quite fits or flows, but can't yet say exactly where or why. It doesn't matter whether you chose all of it, some of it or none of it.
What does it actually look at?
Five questions: where am I going, who am I becoming, what have I actually got in the tank, what makes me feel alive, and what am I really choosing? You get a score for each one, not one big number. Think of it as a friction audit for your whole life, not just your calendar: it shows where things still fit and where something's getting in the way.
Is this a clinical or psychological test?
No. It won't tell you who you are, and it won't tell you what's wrong with you. It helps you see where to look first. If you're worried about your mental or physical health, please talk to your GP.
How is this different from the Burnout Quiz?
The Burnout Quiz is about exhaustion: what's happening in your body and nervous system. This audit is about whether the shape of your life still fits you. They often overlap. If you're not sure which to take, start here. If the honest answer to "what have I got in the tank?" is "nothing", try the Burnout Quiz instead.
What happens at the end?
You'll see your Flow Map across all five areas, the one (or two) I'd look at first, one question worth sitting with and one small thing to try. That's it. No 47-page plan.
Do I have to give my email?
Yes, to see your results. I won't spam you, and you can unsubscribe at any time.