From school onwards, we receive a consistent message: identify what you're bad at, and work on it. Performance reviews, school reports, self-improvement culture — they all point in the same direction. Fix the gap. Shore up the weakness. Close the deficit.
This approach has a certain logic. But it also generates enormous amounts of friction.
Working against your own nature — pushing into areas where you have to consciously effortful, where things don't flow, where you need to concentrate hard just to produce ordinary results — is one of the most exhausting ways to spend your days. And it leaves very little capacity for the things you're actually built for.
Low Friction Living starts with an honest question: where do you flow, and where do you fight?
"Your zone of genius is not vanity. It is where you produce your best work with the least friction."
The cost of strength-blindness
Most of us are far better at cataloguing our weaknesses than our strengths. We've been trained to notice the gap, the error, the area for improvement. Strengths, because they come easily, often don't register as strengths at all — they register as nothing, as ordinary, as "just how I am."
This is the trap. The things that come naturally to you — the ability to see patterns others miss, to bring order to chaos, to communicate complex ideas simply, to hold emotional space for others, to build systems from scratch — these are not nothing. They are significant, and almost certainly underused.
When you spend your days working against your nature, you accumulate friction. Not the productive friction of genuine challenge, but the grinding friction of sustained misfit — the sense of being in the wrong shape for the container you're in.
Green activities and red activities
A useful low-friction framework: divide your regular activities into two categories.
🟢 Green activities
- Come naturally — almost effortlessly
- Leave you energised, not drained
- You lose track of time doing them
- You produce good results without grinding
- Others notice your quality in these areas
🔴 Red activities
- Require conscious effort to do adequately
- Leave you depleted after
- You avoid starting them
- Results feel mediocre even when you try hard
- They create background dread
The goal isn't to eliminate all red activities — some are unavoidable, and some build necessary capacity. The goal is to notice the ratio. If your days are predominantly red, you are generating more friction than your system can sustainably absorb.
How to find your zone of genius
Your zone of genius is the intersection of what comes naturally, what energises you, and what produces your best results. It's not always obvious — we're often too close to our own strengths to see them clearly.
Look back, not forward
Think about moments in your life — work, projects, conversations — where you felt most alive and effective. Not necessarily most praised, but most you. What were you actually doing in those moments? Look for the verb, not the context.
Ask people who've worked alongside you
Others often see your strengths more clearly than you do, precisely because they don't have access to your internal effort. Ask: "What do you come to me for? What do you think I do better than most?" The answers may surprise you.
Track what energises you for one week
After every significant task or interaction, note briefly: did this give me energy or take it? At the end of the week, look for patterns. This is data, not opinion.
Notice what feels easy that others find hard
We routinely dismiss our own strengths because they feel easy to us. If something comes naturally to you that others struggle with — that's a strength, not a baseline. The ease is the signal.
Notice where you lose time
Flow states — where time disappears and you're fully absorbed — are almost always indicators of deep alignment between your capabilities and the task. When did you last lose track of time in your work?
Wondering where your energy is actually going?
The Low Friction Audit is a free guide to help you notice what's draining you — and what might shift if you stopped fighting your own nature.
The low-friction application
Once you know where you generate the most value with the least friction, the next question is structural: how do I redesign my days, my roles, and my commitments so I spend more time there?
This isn't always immediately possible — especially if you're inside a structure you didn't design and can't easily change. But even small shifts accumulate. Delegating one red-zone task. Claiming one morning a week for deep work in your green zone. Saying no to a project that would require sustained work against your nature.
The principle of low friction living applies directly here: instead of relying on willpower to push through, design a life where the right things happen more easily. That means building in proximity to your strengths, and building in distance from the activities that consistently drain you for mediocre returns.
Working in your weakness zone is not virtuous. It's just expensive.
